You won't see it because you're so wrapped up in self pity.
We have often a choice: self pity or spiritual power through suffering.
He looked at me and smiled with no trace of self pity.
"I reflect on him and try not to give myself too much room to have self pity," he said.
Where is the self pity of which you speak?
Not saying this out of self pity but still it was a shock to realise.
But she seems to have no time or patience for self pity.
You can grieve only so much; after that it's self pity.
All that aside you comment of wallowing in self pity.
I wonder could you explain to me where you think it is self pity?