But none of these now-grown children have found a convincing method of coming to terms with their parents' crimes.

Philip Senete, who lives in Monroe and is a member of the center's board, has been attending the church for 25 years with his wife and now-grown children.

But after 25 years of weekend commutes from their apartment in Washington Heights, the couple and their now-grown children had accumulated more than good experiences.

After Phyllis's death, Davenport moved to Los Angeles and lived with his now-grown children.

People talked to me about "psychological separation" from my now-grown children.

The couple still lives in the same home in West Bloomfield, Michigan, where they raised their now-grown children.

But it seems that these now-grown children, whose lives were shaped, and saved, by the hard choices of their parents, are the last people who can speculate on such hypothetical questions.

"It was like magic," Anne Millard, who brought her three now-grown children there, said.

Now, thirty years later, she sets off to find her now-grown child.

She had met her now-grown children, but they had never met their brother Philip.